I don’t want to infuse paranoia in anyone, but as the wedding ceremony grew closer I had thoughts in my mind of being jilted at the alter.

It was a completely and utterly ridiculous thought; but I think that all the movies and Bridezilla reality shows put that thought in my mind. “But what if….”

No one wants to be embarrassed and I think that’s one of the most embarrassing things in the world.

I never shared these thoughts with anyone, but I did make use of my cell phone to give me a little peace of mind.

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Q: I was going to hire a wedding coordinator for my wedding day but now I think it will cost too much. Is this something I need? Will I regret it if I don’t have one?

A: If you are having a medium to large size wedding then you’ll need the help, but that doesn’t mean you have to hire a coordinator. I’m sure you have plenty of family and friends who would love to help you on that day. Write down what needs to be done and ask someone close if they’d mind being your coordinator. Don’t ask someone like your grandma who wants to sit down, talk to people, and enjoy what’s going on; but ask a close friend or relative.

I didn’t even think about a coordinator but luckily my mom asked one of her friends to help out, and it came in handy. Plus there were a few ladies that day who kept asking if I needed help with anything.

So if you have the money for it, sure, support a small business. If not, then that’s what friends are for.

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Sunday is the big day.

After all the etiquette rants, guest issues, and general stress I will finally be married.

Even though I want everything to go well, I still hope the whole experience gives me more tips and hints to write about…in a positive light of course.

In the meantime, it’s time to change perspectives for a bit. So often we get so caught up in the glamor in glitz of a wedding that we forget what comes afterwards….the marriage.

Here is where Marriage Diva Steps in….

The Wedding Band Debate - Remember when I posted are wedding rings are a girly thing? Here’s another take on it.

Building a Modern Marriage - Love is all that matters…right?

Should You Get Married?Well… should you? Is a verbal commitment enough or do you need more than that?

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Now that the day is growing closer I’ve found myself wondering what to do about vows.

I wrote the vows for both of us and I had it set in my mind that we’d simply read them once the time came. “Isn’t that odd? Are you going to have a big piece of paper sticking up” is what some people said. My response was “I don’t think it’s any more odd then simply repeating after a minister. After all, I’d rather hear all the vows as if they are coming from him, and not as if he’s just repeating.”

I was confident in that choice. But this was months ago and neither of us has even glanced over the vows. Now I’m starting to think that memorizing wouldn’t be such a bad idea. But then what if we get nervous and forget? Doesn’t it make sense to have a copy there with us.

But heck, with me turning into such a anti-traditional wedding queen; I might just say forget the vows! We’ll just wing it and say whatever comes to mind.

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