Q: I think you were the bride blogger that didn’t have a wedding party. I was wondering how did you deal with that because I don’t have one, and people are driving me nuts. It’s like my wedding isn’t valid or something. People are calling me odd and saying things about my wedding. Did you go through that?

A: Yes. I got all kinds of unsolicited advice. But I am used to that since I run my life how I feel is best, and that doesn’t necessarily coincide with traditional standards.

I wanted our wedding to be about us. I didn’t have time for silly bridesmaid nonsense, I didn’t want the stress about what people were going to wear, how their hair was, if they were at rehearsal, and all the other things that I find to be completely unnecessary for a wedding.

The worst response I got was people thinking I was pregnant so that’s why I didn’t want a wedding party. I don’t know where that connection came from, but my hairdresser said, “No bridesmaids? What is this a shotgun wedding?”

My mental response was, “yes, you idiot, I am getting married 6 months from now because this is a shotgun wedding.” My verbal response was, “ummm no”.

Then there was my grandma who couldn’t understand why I didn’t want my sister in the wedding. She thought I was being mean and she pleaded and pleaded with me to let my sister be in it. Grandma can always make me crack, so I talked to my sister and she said she didn’t want to be in it because she understood why I wanted my wedding the way I did.

So my advice to you is just to smile and nod. People will always want to run their mouths about what you do. They’ll get over it and I bet once they are at the wedding you’ll be so beautiful that they won’t even notice.

Trust me, having a wedding party adds a lot more drama and stress than not having one.

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If you were reading back when I was planning my wedding you’d know that wedding favors were the last thing on my mind. I wasn’t trying to be cheap, I just didn’t think it was important.Later on, I started to get a little cheap, though I prefer the phrase, financially conscious about a one day event, however neglecting this aspect wasn’t initially due to finances.

A few weeks before the ceremony my mother asked me what was I going to do about wedding party favors, and at the time it was the last thing I wanted to hear. I was stressed out, tired of people telling me what to do, tired of people RSVPing late,tired of people questioning why my sister wasn’t in the wedding and on and on.

I don’t care I’M NOT HAVING FAVORS I said quite rudely. This was a phone conversation, so I assumed she rolled her eyes, went to the store, and picked up some materials, because she and my aunt handmade some of the most unique wedding favors I’d ever seen.

We live in different states so my mom had to mail a sample to me. “Wow, these are so pretty”, I said when I opened up the box.

So now I’ve changed a bit. I’m not so anti-wedding favor anymore. If you are going to have them, they might as well be useful and unique. I mean while I love you a lot, I don’t know what I’m going to do with a framed pic of you and the groom…know what I mean?

For instance, look at these Bride and Groom Notepads, they are cute and useful. Who doesn’t need a notepad tucked away in their purse or in the counter drawer at home?

That’s my advice for today. Keep it useful. By the way, you can find those notepads at HQWeddingFavors.com

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Now this is my style.

I came across this post, Since When Did a Wedding Have to be BORING, and it encompasses just about everything I believe in. You don’t have to have all these frills in order to have a nice wedding. Especially if you don’t want to. I guess I don’t say that nice enough because I’ve been reading some comments about this blog on other blogs.

Don’t worry, I think it’s funny and I appreciate the attention even if you don’t like my style. There’s no one size fits all in terms of how people like information presented.

I digress.

The author describes a few things that people see as “must haves” and describes why they aren’t necessary.

Here’s my favorite part:

In the end, there is only very few things that are a MUST for a wedding:

- a bride and a groom

- an officiate or justice of the peace

- 2 witnesses

- a marriage certificate, a pen and the required wedding vows

Everything else is there to help celebrate the vows and the signing of that paper - so what better way to do that then with activities that have meaning to you rather then activities you dread?

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Quick Tip About Wedding Cakes

If you are looking for a wedding cake option that is creative, a little less expensive, and fun then consider a cupcake wedding cake.

I went with this option because I got married on a boat and I didn’t want to worry about who was going to cut a cake and how it was going to be served.

Our cake turned out exactly like the picture I showed the lady. The only thing I regret is that I didn’t do more research because now that the day has long passed I’ve come across some absolutely GORGEOUS cupcake wedding cakes.

Oh well, you live and you learn.

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