This is a hot topic that should really be talked about before you walk down the aisle.

I don’t think anyone can prescribe a formula that works for everyone. Years ago I scoffed at married people who dared to have separate accounts. Now that I’m on the other side I can see how it’s conveneint to keep the accounts you already had and open a new one together. Now my mom scoffs at me for daring to still have my separate bank account.

For us, it’s just easier for us each to have our own bank accounts; but we also have two accounts together. I’m not trying to hide anything, and neither is he. At this point of our lives it’s much simpler to leave it that way. (Yes, I know it’s odd to say that it’s easier for me to have 5 bank accounts instead of merging them; but it really is. Different accounts for different reasons.)

For others, it might be easier to merge finances and I don’t see anything wrong with it. Do what works for you.

Here’s what others say on the topic of merging finances:

Get Rich Slowly- He and his wife keep separate finances.

The Weight Of Money- Discusses some issues that can arise from trying to combine finances.

Blueprint For Prosperity- A detailed plan on how they combine their finances.

All in all I think each couple has to do what works best for them. What do you think?

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Yes it does feel different to be married.

Some brides get married and shrug “ok, that was nice.” Others get married and are left in awe. Some are in between.

I’m a bride that’s left in awe. I guess because I see marriage as so much more than just a piece of paper. And that’s all I wanted anyway, I didn’t care about the wedding as much as I did the marriage. Now that I’m married I feel like I’ve been given an amazing gift. It feels different to me, but some people say they feel the same after the wedding.

Here are some things I wish would have been told to me about my wedding day

• You can plan,plan,plan and it doesn’t matter- something will hold you up. Your hair stylist will run over, an important family member will arrive late no matter how much you stress timeliness, or something random will happen. But the good thing is that you’ll be so wrapped up that you won’t care. (Unless you are a monster bride)

• Speaking of not caring…all the little things that you were a grizzly about won’t matter to you once it all starts. I think back to all the little things I was upset about and in the end it wasn’t that important.

• Post-wedding pictures take a long time. I thought we’d take pictures for 30 minutes tops- I was wrong ,and because of that dinner was served a lot later than I planned.

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I am having buyers remorse….2 months after the fact, but the effect is still the same. Why did I spend so much on a wedding dress? What am I going to do with it after everything is over?

The killer part is that I won’t even get to wear it all day. I’ll be in it 4 hours tops and then it will be done. People on the web are always buzzing about trash the dress. While the pictures are lovely I could never do that.

Then there’s the option of saving it for my future daughter or grand daughter. I am nostalgic like that but I have a feeling my kid’s won’t be.

I could preserve it in a pretty box…but that doesn’t make me feel like I am getting my money’s worth.

Or I could cut it up and make something pretty like a pillow case, but I don’t have it in my heart to take scissors to all that goodness.

I guess the most logical thing to do is to wear the thing again. So my mission is to find an occasion (or make one up) so that I can wear my wedding dress more than once.

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