I have a confession to make.

I am very disappointed with my wedding pictures and video.

I think because we had no bridesmaids/groomsmen the photographer and videographer got the wrong idea. They must have assumed that we wanted to the day to be all about us, and thus that’s what the video and pictures reflect.

The pictures are nice, don’t get me wrong, but you can’t tell who was there aside from us and our families. Luckily friends took pictures of each other but I still don’t have all of them.

As for the video..it’s absolutely beautiful…and about 12 minutes long. After all that walking around and filming the video person decided to condense it into a montage. It’s nice, but I would have like to see more of the reception. There’s the toasts, the first dance, and one dance that everyone did together. That’s all.

Plus he cut out part of the ceremony procession.I didn’t notice until I got the final copy and I said, “wait, where’s my sister?”

If I can offer any advice from this it’s BE VERY SPECIFIC about what you want. I knew that before I went in but I guess with me trying to keep things simple I wasn’t specific enough.

My bad.

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I just got married a month ago and I love my hubby very much. The thing is that we make love every night. It’s like he can’t keep his hands off of me. I’m not offended but sometimes I’m tired and I don’t want to do that every night. I love his attention and I don’t want to push him away but at the same time I can’t keep up this pace. What should I do?

When I have to say things that I find difficult I just wrap it around an extra dose of kindness. In this case I’d hug and kiss him, take him by the hand and say sweetie, “I love you so much, but tonight I’d rather cuddle. Is that ok?” That way you are still being romantic, you aren’t pushing him away, and you aren’t as likely to hurt his feelings. That’s my advice. But since I’m a newlywed myself, I’m going to pass the mic on this one to Heather of Marriage Diva.

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This is a hot topic that should really be talked about before you walk down the aisle.

I don’t think anyone can prescribe a formula that works for everyone. Years ago I scoffed at married people who dared to have separate accounts. Now that I’m on the other side I can see how it’s conveneint to keep the accounts you already had and open a new one together. Now my mom scoffs at me for daring to still have my separate bank account.

For us, it’s just easier for us each to have our own bank accounts; but we also have two accounts together. I’m not trying to hide anything, and neither is he. At this point of our lives it’s much simpler to leave it that way. (Yes, I know it’s odd to say that it’s easier for me to have 5 bank accounts instead of merging them; but it really is. Different accounts for different reasons.)

For others, it might be easier to merge finances and I don’t see anything wrong with it. Do what works for you.

Here’s what others say on the topic of merging finances:

Get Rich Slowly- He and his wife keep separate finances.

The Weight Of Money- Discusses some issues that can arise from trying to combine finances.

Blueprint For Prosperity- A detailed plan on how they combine their finances.

All in all I think each couple has to do what works best for them. What do you think?

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Yes it does feel different to be married.

Some brides get married and shrug “ok, that was nice.” Others get married and are left in awe. Some are in between.

I’m a bride that’s left in awe. I guess because I see marriage as so much more than just a piece of paper. And that’s all I wanted anyway, I didn’t care about the wedding as much as I did the marriage. Now that I’m married I feel like I’ve been given an amazing gift. It feels different to me, but some people say they feel the same after the wedding.

Here are some things I wish would have been told to me about my wedding day

• You can plan,plan,plan and it doesn’t matter- something will hold you up. Your hair stylist will run over, an important family member will arrive late no matter how much you stress timeliness, or something random will happen. But the good thing is that you’ll be so wrapped up that you won’t care. (Unless you are a monster bride)

• Speaking of not caring…all the little things that you were a grizzly about won’t matter to you once it all starts. I think back to all the little things I was upset about and in the end it wasn’t that important.

• Post-wedding pictures take a long time. I thought we’d take pictures for 30 minutes tops- I was wrong ,and because of that dinner was served a lot later than I planned.

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