The following is not going to win me any friends, but it’s the truth.

I’ve previously talked about how I didn’t want any bridal attendants in my wedding. But I don’t think I’ve mentioned how the response from my family was, “Ok, that’s weird, whatever, but your sister has to be in the wedding.”

The reason I am bringing this up today is because someone left a comment on the I’m Not in My Friends Wedding post that said it is disrespectful and rude to not ask your friend to be in your wedding.

I don’t know what’s wrong with people, I really don’t. But back to my story.

There was all this pressure for me to have my sister in my wedding.

“That is your little sister! What is wrong with you!”

“Don’t you love your sister?”

“How do you think your sister feels.”

And then the one that almost won me over, good old grandma. “Please let your sister be in your wedding, for me”.

I almost pulled my hair out with frustration. “This has nothing to do with my sister! I don’t want any bridal attendants-period. It’s not neccessary especially since there is no one that I am THAT close to, and secondly I don’t want the added stress! Why is that so hard to comprehend?”

But instead of shouting from the roof tops, I turned to my sister and asked, “Are your feelings hurt, do you want to be in the wedding?”

She turned her face up and said, “No! I don’t want to be in the wedding. You don’t want anyone in the wedding and I get it. My feelings aren’t hurt because I understand why. It’s really not a big deal”.

I breathed a sigh of relief and proceeded as planned.

So someone please tell me what’s up with all this bratty behavior over not being asked to be in someones wedding? Everyone has a different vision and plan, it’s not a diss to you unless you are directly dissed.

Maybe the bride chose someone as a favor because she was pressured into it. (See above)

Maybe the bride chose someone based on their looks. Some don’t want anyone prettier than them in the wedding, some don’t want anyone who they don’t consider pretty.

Maybe the bride just wants you to enjoy yourself and not worry about anything.

Maybe the bride really needs help with another aspect of the ceremony.  Oh, but let me guess, you think you are too good for that?

Whatever it is, she has her reasons and she is well within her right. Instead of being a wedding brainwashed brat, how about you do what REAL FRIENDS do, which is support and be happy for the couple on their special day.