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Does a Bride Really Have Any Choices?
Reader Diane posted a comment on I Am Not Excited About My Wedding and I just wanted to bring it to the spotlight.
She wrote:
I COMPLETELY feel your pain! It’s so nice to know I’m not the only one who feels like this. I feel like people think I’m terrible when I say I’m not excited about planning a wedding. What have you decided to do? I just got engaged on 9/1 and am planning a “wedding” for 5/2. Any suggestions?
I know I’ve mentioned this plenty of times but there is nothing like a refresher. Relax and do what you want to do!
That’s easier said than done when you have mothers running around in excitement, mother in laws wanted to butt in, friends telling you what to do, and family members all in your face.
You don’t want to seem cheap, you don’t want people to say “that sure was a tacky wedding”, and you don’t want to be an outcast so you tend to conform to what others say you should do.
But if you start your married life that way, it will continue that way. What else will you do, not because you want to, but because you want to impress others? Think about it.
I watched a movie about a man who felt trapped because of a how he lived his life. He said, “I bought stuff I didn’t need with money I didn’t have to impress people I don’t even like.”
Does that sound like your wedding plans?
You should be excited, not stressed. You should be happy about your marriage, not upset because of a wedding. So what can you do about it- make the choices that you want to make, not the choices that others think you should make.
Good luck.
