Comments on: Pre-Wedding Blues- I Am Not Excited

By: Sophia Isabella

Sophia Isabella — Tue, 06 Jul 2010 20:52:56 +0000

I’m also not excited but for different reasons. The dream wedding that I so wanted is being whittled down to a blah wedding. It’s not MY wedding anymore so why should I be excited about my parents and future-inlaws wedding? I’m dreading the next year. I’m sure it’s going to be full of compromises so that the whole wedding looks like crap. Silver lining in the cloud is that I am marrying my true love :0) In the end that’s all that matters.

By: christine jennett

christine jennett — Wed, 30 Jun 2010 09:24:53 +0000

I am very happy about my up coming wedding on september 25th , but i am getting no real cooperation from the wedding party. the groomsmen have not even gotten fitted for their tuxes and one the brides maids does not even have her dress yet. I contue to try to contact them with no response. so , I have no chose , but to give them a time limit that either their in the wedding or not. the procrastination is making me very pissed off.

By: Kirsten

Kirsten — Wed, 02 Jun 2010 21:55:57 +0000

Glad to know I’m not the only one that doesn’t want a wedding. I would want to elope and go on a fabulous vacation with my husband, buy a house, buy new furniture, but he wants the wedding. I’m so miserable that even talking wedding plans puts me in a bad mood. I’ve started calling it his wedding since I virtually want nothing to do with it. All I hear is cha-ching, cha-ching. I cannot for the life of my grasp the concept of spending SO MUCH money for only a few hours!!
The funny thing is, is that I’m an event planner for a living, so planning a wedding is like being at work. Its not fun to “work” constantly. Especially on a wedding that your not interested in having in the first place. I don’t know HOW I’m going to get through this!!

By: Sheri

Sheri — Fri, 21 May 2010 13:45:51 +0000

I feel the same way. I have truly enjoyed the wedding planning, but wish we didn’t have such a long engagement. 13 months is too long and now I feel depressed, angry, and sad. All that family has said and done, family expectations, the money, and the stress has gotten me down. I did this for me and my fiancee, but everyone seems to think it is for them.

By: Denise

Denise — Mon, 26 Apr 2010 06:47:01 +0000

My sister does not seem excited about her wedding. Everytime we talk about it, she seems annoyed and keeps saying that she just wants to keep it simple & “get it over with.” If she doesn’t want to have a ceremony or gathering, she could go to the JP. I support her decision. I’m starting to feel like it’s an “obligation” since she doesn’t seem excited. I have to take time from my work schedule, spend $300.00 on a flight, and 100.00 a night on a hotel to be there. I keep thinking what is the point of her having it, if she is not excited.

By: Keri

Keri — Mon, 08 Mar 2010 14:35:11 +0000

I was always over-excited when my friends got engaged, I got so much joy out of hearing thier planning details and seeing where I could help and couldnt wait to plan my own! Now that I’m engaged, its been 3 months and I’m over it! And I feel so bad but all this worrying about costs and that it’s so expensive is just pissing me off! it’s like suppliers rip you off on purpose because you have to spend the money and there’s nothing you can do about it. I wish I could be more excited!

By: Erica

Erica — Fri, 08 Jan 2010 16:48:58 +0000

Another thing I am experiencing and wish I could sort out — I don’t really see how it matters if we elope or do something at all. I don’t understand the point of a wedding in a way, except for the legal aspect; we’ve already vowed to one another our commitment and promised in our hearts and spiritually to be one, together, always. And we already live together in a house we bought. How is the day after our wedding going to be any different from the day before? And the ceremony seems like a bit of a charade, aside from the legal aspect.

I wish I could be excited about it. It all seems like more of an unnecessary obligation to spend money than a celebration.

By: Erica

Erica — Fri, 08 Jan 2010 16:37:26 +0000

I feel exactly the same, and trying to decide whether to have a wedding at all.

I’m definitely marrying the right person, but really don’t understand why I should spend thousands of my own money on a one-day party for other people. And when I told people when we got engaged that we would elope, everyone acted so disappointed and critical, it was like they could only be excited about our engagement if we were throwing THEM a wedding to attend.

I feel a bit jealous of the girls who really enjoy this and get so much excitement from it, though I repress that feeling most of the time. Their joy and excitement looks fun. But maybe they also aren’t paying for it themselves or to them this somehow is the most value they are going to get out of their money. I figure I’m going to get an awful lot of joy out of having money to retire with or having money to take six honeymoons with, rather than blowing it on one day.

By: Rory

Rory — Fri, 06 Nov 2009 01:36:59 +0000

I totally agree with all of you. I’ve been miserable for the last six months and can’t wait until the day after the wedding. Hopefully I won’t see any more relatives for a while!

By: kelly

kelly — Thu, 28 May 2009 13:47:44 +0000

I feel the same way too, I wonder why i’ m not excited, i cant wait to be married, but i also cant wait 4 the day to come and go.