Q: My fiance and I have been engaged for 2 years and are now planning our wedding. His friend, got engaged around the same time, I have never been close to them or even really know them.

The problem is that though my searching I found the perfect place for our wedding, a little resort that would allow my family to hang out for the weekend and get to know my fiance’s family, and that we could afford. So my fiance and I made an appointment, rented a car and drove the 3 hours to see it. We got there and only then did my fiance clue in that it was the same location his friend had picked. They are getting married there in the summer, and we are looking for the fall.

Before we booked it he thought it would be polite to ask if they had a problem with us getting married their after. He spoke with his friend and he said that he would call my fiance back. He never did call back.

So we booked it, and now 3 weeks after the phone call they called to say that we are no longer invited to thier wedding and they will not becoming to ours because we are selfish and rude and stealing her thunder.

I’ve met this girl about 5 times.

Am I crazy?

A: This is the kind of crap that really bothers me about weddings.

With friends like that, who needs enemies? Seriously be glad that these immature, petty people are out of your life.

Before I sign off I do want to say that I can understand why they’d be a little annoyed, it’s only natural to want to feel “special and unique” on your wedding day, but that reaction was over the top.

True, no one wants to feel copied but it’s not like you are getting married the day before them ,or the week after so no you aren’t crazy.

At least you had the courtesy to ask them about it.

What’s next? Fighting over who has a child first? Who gets the first dibs on kids names? Who can have a birthday party at certain locations?

Gee whiz!