It’s time for some FAN MAIL!
Q: So you wanted to make sure everyone knew that you weren’t going to change your last name. You must not love your husband then. How rude of you. He must have been really embarassed of you. What kind of wife doesn’t want her husbands last name?
A: What kind of wife doesn’t want her husbands last name? A wife that realizes she had a name before she met her husband and that she’s pretty used to it at this point.
No it wasn’t an embarassment to him as he already knew how I felt about it before we were even engaged.
One day I sat down and told him how I felt about marriage and the name change thing.
If I were to get married, I’d wouldn’t just be marrying him, he’d be marrying me as well so why should I have to give up my name? I’m used to my name just as much as he is used to his. Would he want to change his name to prove he loved me?
If anything we should BOTH change our names because we are both getting married. So I told him that if I was to get married, either both of us would change our last names, or neither one of us would.
I went on to explain how the woman changing her name was based on a patriarchal custom in where women were property. They didn’t take their husbands last name out of love, they did it because when you got married, you were that mans property.
He told me he’d have to take all that in and think about it. Later on he said that I made some good points and he understood. So Missy, I love my husband very much and he loves me as well. That’s why we BOTH changed our last names.
Any questions?
