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Invitation Wording Woes
I don’t want to use my full name.
I don’t have parents.
He doesn’t like his parents.
But my parents are paying.
Invitations should be one of the simplest items in the grand scheme of things, but they often cause the most stress.
I say, do what you want.
If you don’t want to put your first, middle, and last name on the invitation then don’t.
If you don’t want to put your parents names then don’t. (But at least mention them in the wedding program with a great big thanks)
It might cause some tension, people might question you, but so what. They’ll question you no matter what you do. If you learn nothing else from this post learn this- you will always have someone questioning your decisions. You can either let it drive you crazy, or you can decide to be happy and trust yourself. It’s your wedding.
What if you aren’t paying for it? If that’s the case then you need to be more flexible, but you should still have some choices. I didn’t pay for my wedding, so there were some things that I got forced into doing that I didn’t agree with, but at the same time there were some things that I refused to bend on. You have to do what works for you.
As for the invitations, I went with something different in terms of wording and no one said anything. All that was mentioned was that the invites were really pretty. I’m not a total rebel though as I did follow proper procedure in terms of spelling out numbers on the invite (with the except of street numbers), using “evening” instead of PM, and addressing the envelopes to individuals and not “and guest”.
I agree that when it comes to many factors of a wedding, it all depends on who is paying. That being said, whoever is paying should be willing to let you have a major say in what is and isn’t going to happen with regards to your wedding. My parents paid for a majority of my wedding, so when it came to the invite I wanted them to be on it. However, my parents include my mom, stepdad, and dad. We also paid for some of it, his parents chipped in and both of our sisters contributed. Once we had all the names on the invite we didn’t have any more room for the other details, so instead we just started the invite with, “Along with their families…” It was really nice and beautiful and then in our programs we made sure to give a huge thanks to our families and named names at that point in time.