Q: I was the best man in my friends wedding. We have a mutual friend who is pretty well off in life. The reason I mention his status is because he didn’t get the bride and groom a gift. The wedding was in October so I wonder if it’s my duty as the best man to remind him to send a gift. What do you think?

A: Gifts are never required and technically if people choose to give gifts, they have a year to do so. Now that I’ve gotten that piece of etiquette off of my chest let me say that you’d be surprised at the number of people who don’t give gifts. We didn’t get gifts from at least a quarter of the people who showed up. Maybe they’ll send something later, maybe they won’t but it’s not important to me.

I too got married in October and I just received a gift last week. I’m sure no one called the party and reminded them; they sent a gift when they could.

I also want to mention that just because someone seems well off, it doesn’t mean they are. You have no idea of this persons financial status or what’s going on in their life so it’s not a good idea to mention anything to them. Personally, I’d be upset if someone reminded me to get a gift.

If anyone has anything to add please feel free to do so.

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