Comments on: Why Do People Accept Wedding Gifts?

By: Alessia

Alessia — Tue, 09 Oct 2007 09:06:39 +0000

I’m planning an unexpensive - but not cheap - wedding. Should be less than 4000$ total (all included)
I’m expecting gifts from my guests, not to cover the costs really, but just because we haven’t been living together before getting married, we are poor students who really don’t have much and I think that in our situation it makes sense that people would help us out. Now if they don’t, I understand, too.
But I just think that if they give us something, it would be nice.

By: Allena Tapia

Allena Tapia — Thu, 04 Oct 2007 13:35:57 +0000

wow! My main question is How does he “figure out about how much it costs per plate”? I mean, when I’m invited to a wedding, I don’t generally go around trying to do the math before I buy a gift. Actually, hows he find that out anyway? Based on the venue? I don’t get it.

By: Diva

Diva — Tue, 25 Sep 2007 16:02:44 +0000

I agree but you’d be surprised at how many people think like that. When planning my wedding someone told me “Well you at least expect to get some of that money back”. Umm no, I don’t.

By: Nikki

Nikki — Tue, 25 Sep 2007 12:54:59 +0000

First of all, if you’re that hard up for money that you expect people to give you a certain amount, don’t use $35,000 to throw a wedding. Second, how uncouth are you that you tell your guests what its costing you to feed them, so they know how much to give? Finally, we accept (and maybe even expect) gifts for the same reason we accept (and expect) them at birthdays and Christmas, its tradition. Traditionally, couples didn’t live togther prior to the marriage, so the gifts were a way to help them get started. While culture has changed, tradition hasn’t and people simply want to help the couple anyway they can, with money or some other type of gift.