I wouldn’t feel right asking my friends and family for a honeymoon.

This reminds me of a conversation I saw somewhere: “Wait, you could just open a paypal account so guests could deposit cash directly, bypassing the ‘honeymoon registry’ fees.”

“Or why not set up a couple ATMs at the reception plus a few card swipers, to make things absolutely easy as pie for your guests?”

Honeymoon registries appall me.

My beloved and I would have loved to have someone pay for us to take a trip to London for our honeymoon,but we planned instead for a trip we could afford, had a wonderful, relaxing time driving up the coast to Vancouver and back, and then saved up for a London trip a few years later.

Besides, any regristry that requires a set up fee from the people registering and skims a percentage off the top of each gift is - to put it bluntly - a business scam. I’d never subject myself, my family, or my friends to a deal where their gift is not as generous as they think it is and I have to pay for the privelidge of having myself and my guests rooked.

And in conclusion: humph!

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I completely disagree that honeymoon funds are tacky and inappropriate. Honeymoon funds are the same as a regualr registry: People will know what you want and they will know how their gift is being used. How is giving money for a honeymoon any different from giving a present from a store? Plus, I think its better than a check because then the guest knows how their gift is being used. We used a honeymoon fund. However, I used a honeymoon fund that did NOT charge extra. In fact, it worked quite differently from most honeymoon funds on the internet. I was able to create different honeymoon “gifts” and put prices with each gift, such as dinner at a local hotspot - $75,etc., and guests could choose which one they wanted to give us. Instead of “buying” the gift online however, they simply printed out a certificate the site pre-made telling us which gift the guest wanted to give us and then the guest put the certificate along with a check into their wedding card. Once they printed out the certifcate for the “gift” it showed up on the registry as “purchased.” There were no fees for me or for my guests because the website did not handle any transactions. Plus, the guest knew we were getting the money up front on the day of the wedding. My husband and I recieved what we wanted, a fabulous honeymoon, and our guests were able to know what their money was being used towards. (It also made thank you card writing much easier because we were able to share stories from our honeymoon with each guest because they technically gave us that moment.)

I find it interesting that you said,”Personally, I wouldn’t contribute to anyone’s honeymoon fund; I’d probably get them an engraved toaster.” I understand how some people would find a honeymoon registry tacky, but buying someone a totally useless gift instead? That’s wasting money. I especially take issue because me and my fiancee are on a budget, and already have a toaster. So many of these rules about whats tacky and whats not come from a “you should spend $20,000.00 dollars on your wedding perspective.” Me and my fiancee are a young couple and just can’t spend that much. But we believe in marriage, God, and the union of our families. If people want to help us with a honeymoon, I’ll accept it. And if someone really didn’t want to buy a certain item on my registry, I would prefer them not buy anything at all because our union isn’t about gifts anyway. But please don’t buy useless through away items. In a world with consumer gluttony, you would be better off saving your money.

Actually my POV comes from a “the marriage is more important than the wedding” perspective. Also, I believe that people should have the wedding and honeymoon they can afford. If people offer to help you then that’s great, but blatantly asking for someone to send you on a trip just because you got married…come on. Like the person said above, why not just setup ATM’s at the door and charge and entrance fee.

By the way, no one is pressuring you to spend anything. If you can’t spend that much then don’t spend it! Who but society is conditioning you to believe that you need to have a costly ceremony? I am speaking by rules I held myself to because I was fully prepared to have a small ceremony that cost under $1000 until my parents offered to pay for the whole thing if I agreed to have something they thought was “nicer”. I already had a contract and was just about to send in the deposit.

I dunno…

I’m considering this because we don’t really want anything you would register for. We have our kitchen stuff, our home stuff, our hobby stuff. Most of our guests are asking where we’re registered, and when we say nowhere, they give us a panicked look.

However, I don’t want it to seem like a money grab either. We are fairly comfortable financially. We can afford the honeymoon we would register for, but we’re at a loss as to what to tell our guests when they ask what to get us. As for just putting money in a card, those who would do that will. Its those who like to give a GIFT per se, that would use this.

I don’t know…