So you are invited to a wedding. There’s a lot of etiquette tips for wedding hosts but guests also need to adhere to some rules. Here’s a list from Seattle PI. My comments are in pink

No, you don’t have to attend: If you don’t want to go, don’t. But, you do have to R.S.V.P. Get it done as soon as possible and no later than two weeks before the wedding. If you aren’t going, the happy couple may want to give your spot to someone they left off the list.

This means you need to RSVP whether you are going or not. Couples should make it easy for you by providing a stamp on the response envelope or a phone number to call. Some people even have websites you can R.S.V.P. on.Don’t wait for the future newlyweds to call and ask if you are coming…they have other things to do.

No, you can’t bring a date: Unless you’ve been invited “+ guest” or your kids’ names appear on the envelope, you’re the only one who may take a seat at the reception.

Amen! If it says John & Cathy Smith then that is who is invited. If it says Gina Carter then that is who is invited. Don’t put people in the uncomfortable situation of having to call and say “Sorry but you R.S.V.P.ed for 3 but we only reserved 2 spots for you.”

Get me to the church on time: If the wedding is supposed to start at high noon, get there 15 minutes early to make sure you’re settled before the wedding procession starts.

I’m a stickler for being punctual.

Don’t get drunk: A little tipsy, maybe. But you’re there to toast the bride and groom, not get torched. And easy does it. You are not the only one in the buffet line. Don’t pile your plate sky high.

I just want to add that an open bar is not a signal to partake in an all-you-can-drink fest.