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Since I have been planning my wedding I’ve become the self-proclaimed etiquette Nazi.
One of the questions that pops up the most on message boards is “why is it rude to put registry cards in wedding invites?”
Most people don’t ask the couple…they ask the bride or grooms mom, or maybe a close relative, or maybe someone in the bridal party. If all else fails people will ask you directly. Imagine getting an invite from someone you don’t know too well and out pops a registry card. Now did they invite you because they really wanted you there; or did they invite you to get a gift? Don’t let the marketing ploys of these stores fool you. It’s rude to include the cards in any invitation except to a shower because by nature a shower is where you “shower” the person with gifts.
LOL! Ok that is obviously tacky to put a whole printout in there but I just might be a tackhead because I never knew that it was tacky to just put the little gift registry card in the invite! lol Whenever I receive an invite and it’s in there, I’ve always found it convenient so I can get ideas as to what they would like and also I can see if someone else has already purchased it. If the registry card is not in there, I’d usually just buy them what I think they would like (but I’m always thinking “what if they already have one of these? Or what if 10 other people bought them the same thing?” I never knew I was supposed to ask the couple for more details. Why would they want hundreds of people calling them just to ask them the same question: “Where are you registered?” I just don’t get why a couple would waste time making a registry if they’re not going to tell anyone about it? *thinking* When I get married I see I am going to have 2 take a crash course on etiquette because otherwise I’d probably (unwittingly) commit all kinds of violations. LOL Thanks for the info!